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Confidence, Comparison, Happiness

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In Russia, my social circle was limited to work colleagues, parents of my children’s classmates, 2-3 girlfriends.

While living in the USA, I met some extraordinary (compared to me) people.

Just for example, a few of them:

-MD,  Ph D, associate professor, together with her sister, the owner of an eye clinic in Batumi, Georgia, the former Russian Republic.

-A former office employee and English teacher speaks 6 languages, retired to take care of a bedridden mother. There is no place for problems in her life, she treats them as challenges and overcomes them. I need to learn that from her, really. 

-In Russia, Professor of English, here a well-educated marketer, program manager, speaker of a forum of 3,000 people, teaches marketing tools. 

-Highly qualified specialist in networking, head of non-profit organizations, specialist in community engagement and volunteer recruitment, fund development, public speaker and so on. 

In addition to everything, they are all very good drivers…. is it something about driving that makes them so good/special/skilled? Most definitely)))

And here I am…

I have two college degrees that I can’t use.

I work in a library, but I’m not a librarian, just a librarian’s assistant.

I have several social media accounts, but I don’t even have 500 followers, which means I’m not good at it.

I do like making things, but I don’t get any profit from it.

From time to time, one thought comes to my mind: Why do these smart women communicate with me?

There is a Russian TV series Kamenskaya. The main character of the series, Lieutenant Colonel Kamenskaya, says that she is a genius because she chose a right husband.

Me too! I chose the right husband. Although in reality, he chose me.

But anyway, my husband sent me a link to an interesting article. 

A psychology expert in Finland says what they don’t do in order to be happy. Here is the link to the whole article. 

I will quote the Happiness tip #1: “focus more on what makes you happy and less on looking successful. The first step to true happiness is to set your own standards, instead of comparing yourself to the others”. 

So instead of asking myself difficult questions I should stop comparing and just enjoy communicating with all my new friends.

People come into our lives, stay there for a while, give us new experiences, share their life stories, motivate us to move on, teach us new skills, and then leave. Some of them stay in touch, others don’t, but they may remember us. And I hope these memories make them smile.

Yes, I should be open to meet new (extraordinary and not so) people, and just be happy if…if I ever get used to the tip # 1. 

What about you? Are you comparing yourself to others or are you confident enough in yourself? 

https://www.cnbc.com/2023/01/05/what-people-in-finland-happiest-country-in-world-never-do-according-to-psychologist.html

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